Friendzone hurts. It is a place where you can’t do much besides being a nice guy.
I know you behave nicely around her and treat her nicely, but still, she isn’t showing any interest and tagging you as her best friend, not her boyfriend. Well, there is a reason behind it, and we’ll find it in this post.
It is complete nonsense that nice guys don’t get any girls, it is rubbish, in fact, most of the time, women prefer nice guys over so-called bad guys.
So if you think you’re a nice guy, then be proud, there is nothing to be ashamed of. You’re friend-zoned by a girl not because you’re nice, it is because she isn’t getting the feeling that she wants.
In this article, we will look at why do girl’s friend zone and how to come out of it. So, without wasting any more time, let’s begin!
Here are the reasons why she has put you in a friendzone:
1. You Chase Her (Stop Chasing Her)
There is a big difference between liking and chasing. If you like her, it is a good thing but if you chase her, then stop it right now because you’ll lose your respect and value in her eyes. She might think you’re creepy, or you don’t have any work or goals in life.
I know it is really hard to ignore someone you love. But knowing your limits is a good thing. It can save your self-respect.
If the girl you’re chasing is a good person and respects all the things you do to please her, she might make you a friend, but nothing more than that. You’ll always stay in friendzone. She won’t see any future with you.
Stop chasing her right now, and start saying “No” because this is the only way that can save you. In the beginning, it would be hard for you but as time passes, she will begin to notice that you’re now standing for yourself, in other words, you’re now a busy person.
Also, if you follow her on social media, then don’t comment on every pics or video she uploads, this will indicate that you’re trying to get her attention way too much, and she may begin to ignore you.
2. You Stay Available For Her All The Time
You sent her a message and she gave her response after 8 hours, but you didn’t take even a second to reply. I know most of you reading this are relating to it because it is the story of all of us.
When we love someone, we don’t even notice how fastly we’re replying to their messages.
However, we also don’t notice that replying to her messages instantly shows how vacant we are.
If she is responding to your message after 8 hours, send her your response after 16 hours.
Just don’t be free for her all the time. It lowers your value. and she may lose her interest in you.
Also, if she gives her work to you, then simply tell her that you’ve already so much work pending, but if she is asking for your help in something, you can help her.
But if you notice that she always pushes her work on you, then don’t be stupid, tell her directly that you don’t have time.
3. You Don’t Show That You Like Her
Actions speak more than words, and you may have heard that a lot. It is 101% true, if you don’t show her that you’re really into her, then how is she gonna take you seriously?
I know that taking action is hard, but if you don’t take it, a feeling of guilt will begin to arise in your mind.
If you fear that she will completely stop talking to me, then let me tell you something, there is a 99% chance that she will continue to be your friend.
Even if she rejects you, you don’t need to be sad because you wanted to be her life partner, not a friend.
4. You Act Too Nice Around Her
There is a big difference between being Nice and being Too Nice. Women generally like guys who are nice, but acting too nice can put you at risk of friendzone.
If she is wrong, say it on her face. Stop helping her in things that she can do herself.
Also, If you’re a nice guy, it is a good thing, but if you aren’t that type of guy and just pretending to be a nice person, then stop it right now.
Being yourself is the biggest advantage. If you don’t wanna help her, then don’t do it. Stop being a Yes man!
How To Come Out Of Friendzone
Coming out of a friend zone is really a difficult task. But according to some experts, it is still possible if you follow the things shown below. Also, if you really wanna break the “we are friends” barrier then you have to take risks. Otherwise, you’ll always stay her good friend.
1. Stop Giving Her Your Time
As I said, you have to stop being easily available. Utilize your time for your betterment. Being available for her all the time will make you her friend. And, subconsciously, you’ll end up losing your value.
On the other hand, if you utilize your time better, you’ll earn more, you’ll have a better life, and people will respect you more.
2. Make Her Feel Jealous
I know it is sounding weird, but this is really effective. Hit on another girl, make her your friend, laugh with her.
If there is any feeling in her heart for you, she will definitely act jealous. And that may help you to come out of the friend zone.
3. Stop Being Her Emotional Supporter
If she shares her emotions with you, it is a sign that she trusts you. But, most of the time, girls share their feelings with their true friends.
Stop being that guy. If she is sharing her past breakup story, then tell her that if you were that guy, you wouldn’t do that.
That way she might think that you are a good person, and she might give you chance to be her partner.
4. Tell Her You Like Her Without Actually Telling Her
Make intense eye contact with her sometimes, talk to her confidently, say some flirty lines to her without looking cheap, and help her whenever she actually needs you.
Doing all these things will subconsciously tell her that you’re into her. As I said, actions speak more than words. Show her how much you’re attracted to her without actually telling her.
Once you begin getting the signs that she also likes you, confess your love to her.
5. Make Her Miss You
Distance yourself from her for some time. Don’t reply to her messages, and stop picking up her calls.
I know it is the most difficult thing to do but you have to do it. She will begin thinking about you, and questions like, why he is ignoring me? will start to pop in her head.
Which may generate emotions about you in her head, and that may help in kick-starting your relationship.
6. Become Popular
If you think you have a hidden talent, like singing and dancing, then try to participate in events. Show your talent to the world. Gain followers on Instagram.
Girls love popular guys. If you somehow become popular, breaking that friendzone barrier will become an easy task for you.
7. Just Go And Tell Her (Risky but effective)
Just go and tell her that you really love her. I know it is risky, but dying with a regret is painful. If you really love someone, just confess your love before it’s too late.
I’ve been through this phase and still regret that I didn’t tell her. I don’t want you to face that same situation. If you have time, then go and show your feelings.
Pro Tip: Improve Yourself
Loving yourself is the best thing you can do. If you love yourself, the world will love you. Go to the gym to improve your physique, learn a new skill or work on the skill that you already have.
Keep improving yourself!
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